Sshh.. listen up closely! What you’re about to read is the direct result of personal experience and life lessons.. so enjoy the ride.

Most people imagine themselves to be good, generous, galant… certainly not selfish or inward facing.

Yet, the myriad of issues we all face in life gives a lie to this myth that humans are not selfish at all. I am by no means saying we all are selfish all of the time, but we must keep ourselves in check.

A person who loves gardening, goes out and buys a beautiful tree, only to forget to water it. Proving one thing.. they did not nurture it and help it grow. When it comes to relationships we must keep reminding ourselves that we need to nurture it!

We need to remember why we’re in the relationship. If the question you find yourself asking is “What am I getting from it?” and you can’t seem to ask yourself anything else… then unfortunately, all you will experience is despair for your expectations will seldom be met.

You may keep blaming others thinking they are not meeting my expectations and resort to anger or pushing them away.

The irony of life is they’re probably thinking the exact same thing.. “He/She doesn’t do this or that for me anymore.”

Lots of relationship advices centres on suffering silently or changing yourself.. this is not realistic. Many couples try this and all that happens is they eventually reach breaking point and lose patience waiting for the other partner to realise on their own.

Nuture in love

The way to nurture a relationship is to talk openly about where your RELATIONSHIP needs work. Always view it as how both partners can do better rather than just expressing your individual needs.

I’m not denying that we all do feel that our partners are not able to satisfy us sometimes.. the fact is we all make mistakes.

Remind one another of what you agreed as relationship goals… to never take one another for granted; to talk to one another with respect.. to never let the love run cold!

To ensure the love never runs cold… grand gestures aren’t what’s needed… the little loveable aspects of what makes you both you… these are what needs to be practiced each day.

Don’t ignore your intimacy.. this is one of the fundamental ways to show your partner you love them. Despite of life’s challenges if you both can be affectionate.. all of the other noise will start to diminish.